The Start of “Us”

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I’m not a fan of talking about myself. I realize this comes across as a tad ironic given you’re reading TonyGentilcore.com (that’s me!!), and to some degree or another I discuss or divulge a medley of personal life happenings or events that transpire on a monthly, weekly, or even daily basis.

So, in a way, I talk about myself all the damn time!

That said, I don’t like to get too too personal on this blog. Talking about my training, movies, books, or my cat is one thing. But some things are better left unsaid.

I generally steer clear – like, with a 50 foot pole (and then some) – of topics like politics and religion. Likewise, no one really cares about mundane things like my favorite color, how many hours of sleep I get every night or how “regular” I am.

Like I said, some things are better left unsaid.

However, part of the reason I feel many people enjoy reading my stuff (particularly this blog) is that I don’t come across as some Terminator freak show that eats, sleeps, and breaths strength and conditioning.

I love helping and educating people and I take pride that people all over the world read my articles and consider me a reputable, straight-shooting fitness authority. I’m always appreciative and humbled when people go out of their way to say “thank you” for all the content and material I put out.

Too, I also take pride in the brand of INFOtainment which I’m known for. I’ve alluded to the story in the past, but one of the best pieces of advice I ever received when I first started writing was from T-Nation Editor-in-Chief, TC Luoma, who told me right out of the gate, “people want to learn, but they also want to be entertained.”

I took his advice to heart and ran with it.  Hence all the boobie and fart jokes throughout the years. Admittedly, with age, those have waned.  Somewhat.

I still have to toss out a curve-ball every so often.

Nevertheless, I’ve long championed the idea that, as much as I want to be recognized as a source of quality fitness information, I also don’t want to bore people to death.  I mean, you can only go so far discussing the attributes (and pitfalls) of the FMS or programming considerations for femoral acetabular impingement before someone would rather watch paint dry. Or worse, listen to Coldplay.

Ergo (<—–yep, I just used that word) the sprinkling of pop culture references and personal antidotes throughout the blog.

As it happens, today is all about me, and one of those days where I’m going to break my “not getting too too personal” rule.

Ready for it?

Lisa and I Are Engaged!!!

I proposed to the love of my life (and yes, my best friend) this past weekend.

 Picture from the night of our engagement right after dinner at our favorite restaurant, The Beehive. Photo Credit: to Lisa (for being a stone cold fox), and to me (for wearing a pick shirt and blazer, like a boss).

Lisa and I met back in 2009, on Match.com. We “met” for the first time on a Thursday. We exchanged numerous, long-winded emails which then progressed to numerous, long-winded phone calls. After ascertaining that neither of us was an ax-murderer, we then “met for real” that same weekend at a popular local hangout in Boston.

Fun Fact:  I remember a few times we talked so long that her phone battery died, twice!

I also remember walking into the restaurant and seeing her in person for the first time and thinking to myself “whoa, Tony, don’t eff this up! Do I have something on my teeth? Shit, does my breath stink? Her she comes. OMG OMG OMG.”

I didn’t mess anything up…..;o)

Our first date lasted four hours. We sat at the table eating and talking until we got the polite “ahem, you need to go so that we can turn around this table” look from the wait staff. Afterwards we ended up walking around what would eventually – two years later – become our future neighborhood together. Coolidge Corner.

How cool is that!?! Talk about foreshadowing!

Our first date led to a second date (I took her to go see Food, Inc., cause I’m romantic like that) which led to a third date (and a first kiss), which led to five years together.

Here’s a picture from when we first started dating and we went to Star Wars in Concert. I showed up to pick her up and she had her hair done up like Princess Leia. Pretty much a keeper by that point.

Here we are during our first visit to Martha’s Vineyard.

Random Halloween. Wonder Woman and Mr. Clean.

At my brother’s wedding back in 2010.

The entire “CP Crew” at Eric and Anna’s taste testing for their wedding.

Random “date night” picture prior to eating steak at Mortons.  Or maybe the picture was taken after. Either way we crushed some protein.

Lisa in her “happy place” drinking a martini during our trip to Vancouver.

Lisa shooting guns with my brother and step-dad during a Thanksgiving trip home. She’s a good shot! Which is why I never forget to put the toilet seat down.

Lisa and I at Comic-Con Boston in 2013. She was a trooper for going.  To make up for it I told her that if someone ever invented a Sex and the City festival I’d be down.

Fingers crossed no one EVER invents a Sex and the City Festival.

A random picture of me with my shirt off as we vacationed in the DR this past spring. Cause, why not?

And nothing more than one of my favorite pictures of us together.

1,825+ days together. The Earth has managed to make the journey around the sun a total of five times. In that same span we’ve seen Prince William marry Kate, the Red Sox win the World Series (again), social media take over all our lives, the rise (and fall) of Honey Boo-Boo, Michael Bay make seemingly 19 different Transformers movies, and the advent of those stupid looking Google Glasses.

Oh, and we adopted a cat.  A cat!!!!!

A lot has happened in five years together.

More than anything, though, independent of the outside world, we’ve both grown to be one heckuva a team, each another’s biggest fan, and support system.

As you can imagine, after five years together people often wondered when we would take the plunge. Which begs the question: Why do people refer to it as a “plunge?”  Kind of a morbid connotation, right?

Anyways, I think after year one together friends and family were tapping their toes wondering why I was taking my sweet ass time?

To be honest: we were never in a rush.

Lisa and I dated for two years before we decided to take it to the next level and move in together. Once we figured out co-habitation would not serve as the impetus to WWIII, we then started talking, loosely, about building a future together.

But other things took precedence. Things like Lisa finishing up and earning her PhD, and starting her career. Things like me getting out of my own way, finally putting on my big boy shoes, gaining some confidence, and pursuing other endeavors with coaching, writing, and speaking. Things like, you know, working shit out as a couple, finding our feet, she respecting my introverted tendencies (and I her extroverted tendencies), talking about feelings and stuff, and doing things when we both felt we were ready.

And here we are. The time is here. And I couldn’t be more excited.

For Those Interested….

You can read about the engagement itself and how I did it HERE.

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  • Ky

    Wow congrats Tony! Hope the wedding planning is fun and thanks for letting your faithful blog readers know 🙂

    • TonyGentilcore

      Wedding planning has already commenced! We’re not messing around it seems.

  • Alex

    Well done Tony!!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Well, I try.

  • Jake

    CONGRATS!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thanks Jake!

  • Kalind Pathak

    Congrats! I am happy for you. Wish you a very long, happy, and a prosperous wedded life. I am a regular reader of your blog from India. Am a big fan:-)

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thank you so much Kalind.

  • Krista

    Yes!! Congratulations!!! I feel like I’ve been waiting for this forever! And I’m also sort of embarrassed to be this excited for two people I’ve never met 🙂 Wishing you both all the best!

    • TonyGentilcore

      LOL – no need to feel embarrassed. I’m honored you would think so highly of two people you’ve never met! Thanks for the well wishes.

  • Guzzy

    I’ve been reading your blogs every week for 3 months, learning a lot, filling in gaps of fitness education in between seeing my own awesome trainer and your engagement news is fantastic!!!!! Italian Kitchen – Vancouver photo right? You guys so cute! You are an excellent writer!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Actually that pic was taken at Blue Water Cafe….;o) Thank you for the kind words Guzzy.

  • Ran

    Congratulations, Tony (and Lisa)!!! Best wishes from Toronto, Canada!

    • TonyGentilcore

      We hope to visit Toronto soon!

  • Silverback

    Major congrats!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thank you!

  • Adam Noll

    Well now you’ve gone and piqued my curiosity, Tony. What IS your favorite color? I must know!!!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Blue. So predictable, I know.

  • Way cool – congratulations!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thanks Kourtney. Appreciate it.

  • Jess Mather

    AWESOME! My boyfriend and I of (four years!) also met via online dating. People give it a bad rap, but five years of friendship later (and also moving in after two years of dating!) and I’m STILL absolutely smitten with him. Wishing all the best for you guys!

    • TonyGentilcore

      it totally works!! Sure, you have to weed out the weirdos, but it’s definitely a viable way of meeting people who have the same interests. Thanks for the kind words Jess.

  • James Hill

    Hey Tony…long time, everyday reader; first time poster. CONGRATS man!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Well thanks James! Appreciate it, and I hope you post more in the future.

  • Gary H

    Congrats to you and Lisa!

  • Once again, many congratulations guys!
    Tony, I always enjoy reading your posts, articles, blogs, etc…you truly are a gifted writer. Thanks so much for sharing this, as well as your engagement story. They both were a privilege to read– what a treat for us readers.
    Sending you both our love…please keep us posted about the wedding plans. 🙂

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thanks Josefina!

  • ronellsmith

    A. What took you so long? (Other than Lisa going through the myriad approach-avoidance scenarios)
    B. I’m very happy for you.
    C. I’m running out of alphabets fast.

    RS

  • Evan

    This is awesome Tony, congratulations to you and Lisa!

  • Lauren L

    Congrats Tony! Feels weird to be so happy for a couple of folks I’ve never met. I guess that’s the beauty of the blogosphere! (first and last time I’ll be using that word)

  • Steve Reed

    Love it, Tony. Thank you for taking the time to share your story with everyone. Lisa’s an incredible woman you have to share life with – Kelsey and I still talk about how awesome it was to meet her. Enormous congrats to you both!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Thanks Steve. You and Kelsey still take the cake thought…..haha. That engagements was epic.

      See you two in a few weeks! Can’t wait!

  • Paul Bruce

    😉

  • Ryan Gilbert Seaver

    Congrats Tony, so happy for you!

  • Trish

    Dude! Congratulations! I’m a little behind but not too long ago I was wondering ‘when is Tony going to put a ring on it? He mentioned in a blog post this year he’d do it’ haha You guys need to be part of a Match.com commercial. (Ok I’m done now…) Congrats again!

    • TonyGentilcore

      hahaha. We’d be perfect for a Match.com commercial. But I’m not as camera friendly as Lisa……;o)

  • Peter Galazka

    How romantic Tony!

    Now all you need is a star wars wedding with admiral Ackbar officiating!

    Good luck on this journey!

    Peter Galazka

    • TonyGentilcore

      LOL. Don’t think I could convince Lisa to allow that no matter how charming I am!

  • Pat

    Fantastic Tony! Super stoked for both of you!

  • Monica Moehring

    Congrats Tony! Thanks for sharing all of that with us! Now I’m looking forward to some fun anecdotes from you on the wedding planning process, if you so choose to share 🙂

    • TonyGentilcore

      Oh boy. It’s already started. We already have a venue and date set. June 13, 2015. We’re not messing around.

  • Hey congrats I know being a introvert myself how hard it must be for you to open & share your life with us.But who cares it was Wroth it.Really Awesome Job.Congrats & god bless you

  • Val

    After years of my husband sending me your blog posts and demanding I read about why girls should lift things (which I now do… so thanks for that :)) …. I think its really awesome that you shared some wonderful news about your own life! Congratulations and enjoy!

    • TonyGentilcore

      Why thanks Val. Glad you stuck around for a while, and I hope you continue to check in here and there.

      And it sounds like your husband has impeccable taste it fitness blogs…..:o)