Success = Strength
I woke up this morning with every intention of writing a post on something mind-blowing, like femoral acetabular impingement, and discussing some guidelines on how to assess and write effective programming around it, but then realized that it was waaaaaay too early to do that much thinking before I had the opportunity to inject any caffeine into my left ventricle.
Besides my good friend, Kevin Neeld, beat me to the punch and had some fantastic things to say on the topic HERE and HERE, so I figured there was no point in reinventing the wheel. Also, there’s no way I could have possibly topped what Kevin had to say, sooooo, enjoy!
Understandably FAI isn’t everyone’s wheelhouse. Which is why today’s idea for a post took a dramatic turn when I opened up my email this morning.
As you might expect I receive my fair share of emails on a day to day basis.
Everything from “wet under the ears” trainers asking me for career advice to people asking how to program around certain injuries to random Saudi Princes gratuitously willing to fork over their millions.
Some people reach out to recommend books or movies, while others reach out just say “thanks for doing what you do.” I like those kind of emails……..ahh-lawt.
As it happens I received a cool email this morning from someone I’ve never met in person nor ever heard from before today.
Quite simply all he did was shoot me a quick email to say how much he enjoyed reading my stuff and to share a quote from a book he’s reading which he felt I’d enjoy.
In his own words, “I found an amazing passage on why someone would want to be strong in my current reading, “Kafka on the Shore” by Haruki Murakami.
I’m not sure if you’re familiar with his work, or with the Magical Realism genre, but this post struck me and I felt like it’s something that should be shared:
“The strength I’m looking for isn’t the kind where you win or lose. I’m not after a wall that’ll repel power coming from outside. What I want is the kind of strength to be able to ABSORB that outside power, to stand up to it. The strength to quietly endure things- unfairness, misfortune, sadness, mistakes, misunderstandings.”
I felt that was a pretty profound passage.
Anyone who reads my stuff on a consistent basis knows I’m all about strength. I want, nay, I love….to make people strong
Hell, my tax returns every year say “strength coach,” so it’s obvious I’m a little biased.
But here’s the rub: strength isn’t always about how much weight someone can pull off the floor or hoist off their chest or place on their shoulders. Nor is strength necessarily about training people till they blow a sphincter or splay out across the gym floor in a pool of sweat
Sure those can enter the conversation. But strength has a much broader umbrella than that and can mean something entirely different from one person to the next.
Take Bill for example. Bill is an 80-year old father of one our other clients who started training with us a few months ago. Bill suffered some health issues last year, and after more than a few nudges from his son, finally decided to give this whole “lifting weights doo-hickey nonsense” a try.
Understandably everything was Greek to him from the start.
Everything from a foam roller to a dumbbell was completely foreign to Bill, not to mention intimidating.
I remember one day I pointed towards the Prowler and told Bill that he was going to be pushing that bad boy down the turf – 40 yards. He looked at me flabbergasted as if I just asked him to sprint up Mt. Everest. He had similar reactions when I asked him to perform (elevated) push-ups, bodyweight box squats, and farmer carries.
He didn’t think he could do any of those things. But I knew better.
It was my job to show Bill SUCCESS!
Having the ability to demonstrate success to clients is a trait I wish more trainers would grasp onto. And I don’t mean quantifiable success like “x” number on a bench press or “x” inches off the waistline (although those certainly are warranted and respectable goals, and important to some).
Rather, I’m referring to having the ability to make a client feel successful regardless of their background or experience level. Demonstrate to them QUALITATIVE markers that prove they CAN do something.
This can be strength too!
Yesterday Bill was handed a new program. Each program he’s started has included 1-2 “new” exercises that (progressively) challenge him in different ways.
Yesterday happened to include a 1-legged hip hinge on the docket. It wasn’t easy for Bill. And I’d garner a guess that he was thiiiis close to scissor kicking Keifer (who was coaching Bill) in the face out of frustration.
But what helped Bill tremendously – and something he brought up himself – was the fact that the (new) exercise was paired with something he knew he could dominate (push-ups).
Again, my objective is to challenge my clients, but not at the expense of making them feel defeated 24/7. That, to Bill, more often than not, is strength.
Knowing that he can do “stuff” and that he can persevere, regardless of what’s thrown his way.
To that end, I’ll end with another quote from the same person who sent the original email that spurned this conversation:
“You guys at CP discuss the quiet confidence that come from training for strength instead of size, but I think that Murakami’s Kafka really expounds on that idea, bringing the purpose of strength from a physical (aggressive?) attribute to one that leads to a great deal of self-assurance in the ability to cope with whatever may arise. Instead of walling one’s self off from any and all comers, a strong person knows they’re able to accept whatever may come and make adjustments without losing themselves.”
Think about that for a few moments and let it sink in.
Comments for This Entry
Mike Anderson
great message today TGJuly 11, 2013 at 9:32 am |
TonyGentilcore
Thanks Mike!July 12, 2013 at 12:50 pm |
Matt
great post tony - shared this with my adult clients who struggle with the very same concepts you mention here!July 11, 2013 at 9:48 am |
TonyGentilcore
Thanks Matt - and really appreciate you sharing the message.July 12, 2013 at 12:50 pm |
Prakash
Wow - do I resonate with the quotes from Kafka - hell yeah! I've just finished reading the Mahabharata and the Ramayana and in it there are many mystical being with incredible strength and abilities but it is the characters that are able to endure without faltering from their path that ultimately "realise" themselves. I going to have to read Kafka now - thanks TG!July 11, 2013 at 9:50 am |
TonyGentilcore
You're welcome Prakash. But you should thank "Ben" the guy who originally sent me the quote.July 12, 2013 at 12:51 pm |
Guillermo Muñoz Mireles
great post to start the day!July 11, 2013 at 9:57 am |
TonyGentilcore
Glad you liked it Guillermo.July 12, 2013 at 12:51 pm |
Josh
Preach it brotha. Great idea to share and the comments are already rollin' in. Very profound and true.July 11, 2013 at 11:02 am |
TonyGentilcore
I was surprised myself that I was able to write that....haha.July 12, 2013 at 12:51 pm |
Daniel
I read the last part of this post with epic music in the background. So much more profound.July 11, 2013 at 11:09 am |
Stevan Freeborn
Wow! Great post! Really insightful! Advice I will remember for a long time to come when working with clients. Thanks for sharing always appreciative of the content you produce.July 11, 2013 at 12:59 pm |
TonyGentilcore
You're welcome Stevan, and thanks for reading.July 12, 2013 at 12:52 pm |
Steven Trolio
Awesome advice, nice and concise. (I'm a rapper)July 11, 2013 at 4:49 pm |
TonyGentilcore
My favorite show back in the day was Miami Vice???July 12, 2013 at 12:52 pm |
chris perry
Awesome post Tony!July 11, 2013 at 6:12 pm |
Charlie
Excellent!July 12, 2013 at 9:11 am |
Jack
Miami vice rocks! Great job TG!July 14, 2013 at 7:45 am |
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