1. I don’t know about you, but I had an awesome weekend. No, I didn’t become an inaugural member of the Masters of the Universe. No, I didn’t win a million dollars in a cereal eating contest. And no, I didn’t practice karate with Matt Damon in my garage.
As many of you know, I was back in my old stomping grounds – Central New York – this past weekend to take part in the SUNY Cortland Strength Symposium alongside other my esteemed colleagues John Gaglione, Dr. Mike Roussell, Lou Schuler, and Dr. Cassandra Forsythe.
It was an amazing event, I felt honored to be a part of it, and if I learned one thing over the weekend it’s that Lou Schuler knows what it takes to keep college students awake and engaged during an hour long presentation: f-bombs!
Oh man, it was awesome to listen to him speak. Not only because it was an interesting topic (obesity), but also because Lou has a knack for making ANYTHING entertaining.
There were roughly 70-80 people who braved the cold, windy, conditions to come listen to us speak on various topics such as business advice, why high-protein diets won’t make your kidneys explode, obesity, why the Paleo fanatics out there are just that: fanatics!, squat assessment, and the rationale as to why women SHOULD train differently then men.
It was a diverse day for sure, but there was a TON of easily digestible and applicable information handed out.
Here’s me looking all gunny and stuff.
And of course, there was some heavy lifting to be had.
One of the things that left a profound impression on me was the culture that has “infected” (in a good way) the atmosphere there.
When I was an undergrad student at Cortland (1999-2002) it was rare to walk into Tomik Fitness Center and see a girl lifting weights. Honestly, you were more apt to see a Smurf riding a unicorn while eating a bowl of Lucky Charms than you were seeing a girl lifting any appreciable weight.
It’s just what the culture was back then. Girls didn’t lift.
Flash forward to this past weekend, and it’s apparently done a complete 180.
We walked into the fitness center early Saturday morning and there were quite a few girls benching, doing chin-ups, squatting AND deadlifting. There were even some digging into their gyms bags for chalk!
Like, holy shitballs!
Even cooler was Sunday morning. A bunch of us decided to meet up early for a deadlift session (see pic waaaaay up at the top) before everyone headed back home. It was 8 AM and there were a group of girls – right alongside the guys – who showed up, Chuck Taylors and all, ready to get after it.
So refreshing to see. In fact, here’s one of those girls, Nancy, getting coached up by John Gaglione performing speed pulls with 185 lbs.
That’s right…..SPEED PULLS!
So badass. And she wasn’t the only one. There were other girls there too, bench pressing, performing kettlebell swings, and getting coached up on their technique by myself and John.
All told, I counted more girls training in the free weight area than in the cardio area. It almost brought a tear to my eye.
Slowly but surely, the paradigm is shifting. And it’s glorious.
2. Speaking of female specific training and content, my good friend, Emily Giza Socolinsky, shared a fantastic blog post with me titled It’s Only a Number, which details her (past) battle and insight with regards to using the (weight) scale to measure success.
It’s a trap that many women fall prey to, akin to two for one shoe sales…..;o)
In all seriousness, though, I felt it was a great piece of writing with a solid message. Check it out.
3. Some VERY cool news.
I’m coming to London!!!!
I figured if Jack Bauer was making a cameo appearance there, why not yours truly? Except in my case I won’t be blowing things up and stuff.
Dean Somerset and I are taking our show global and will be putting on a 2-Day workshop in London in early September at The Third Space located in Soho.
Pre-Registration is now open, and you can get more information regarding topics covered, price, location, and Dean’s all-time favorite Spice Girl HERE.
4. One of the perks of running a fairly successful website and being “kind of a big deal,” is that people are always willing to send me free stuff to try out.
Note: T-shirt size = large. Shoe size = 10.5. Sorry, Kate Beckinsale, I can’t accept women’s underwear.
Oftentimes things aren’t a good “fit,” and I graciously decline the offer, as was the case when someone reached out to send me samples of their soy protein powder line.
I LOL’ed a lot when that happened.
Clearly they didn’t read the blog much. What’s next? Tofurkey burgers? No, wait, running shorts?
Many times, though, I’m more than happy to oblige.
Last week I was sent a sampler pack from Sweet Spreads, which is a company that sells delicious (with a capital D!) coconutters.
All the spreads are coconut based with minimal ingredients. Ie: you can actually comprehend what it is in fact you’re eating. I’ve been using them on toast and putting them in my protein shakes the past few days and am loving it.
I’m not making a dime off of saying anything, so take that as you will. Regardless, if you’re looking for something to spice up your shakes or to use a spread, and would like to support a small business…….give this a try.
There’s certainly no shortage of articles, blogs, and rants out there in the digital world decreeing, loudly, that using a scale to measure success is kind of pointless.
SPOILER ALERT: this is going to be one of those rants.
I’ve been working as a trainer and coach for well over a decade now working with various females – short, tall, skinny, overweight, athletic, blue-collar, white-collar, Team Jacob, Team Edward – helping them achieve “the look.”
What “the look” entails I’m not exactly sure, as different women have different goals and different viewpoints on what they’d prefer to look like.
More often than not, though, for most, it just comes down to feeling and looking better, and not being bashful at rocking a strapless dress whenever the time calls for it.
Or, to put it more succinctly (and a tad less narcissistic): just becoming the best version of YOU that you can be regardless of sexiness factor or societal standards.
If I had to narrow it down to one celebrity who gets the most “Yeah, I want to look like her” nods it would undoubtedly go towards Mrs. Justin Timberlake (AKA: Jessica Biel), circa whenever it was she did that redunkulous spread in GQ Magazine.
Don’t shoot the messenger! I’m just stating that in my experience this is “the look” which many women I’ve worked with have gravitated towards.
But again, it’s just one example and doesn’t represent a universal mindset – so please, please, PLEASE don’t mistake this as me saying “hey ladies, this is what you should look like!”
Because at the end of the day, it’s about you, not me.
But here’s the deal: it’s a fairly well known fact that Jessica is a very active person who routinely lifts weights, plays sports, and leads a healthy lifestyle. Or, at least that’s what all the magazine articles and interviews tells us.
Her celebrity status aside, I look at her and see a full-figured, athletic woman who doesn’t look frail, weak, emaciated, or the second coming of that creepy skeleton looking guy from Tales of the Crypt.
Unfortunately, many (not all) women are under the impression that in order to achieve said look they have to diet for months (if not years on end), do copious amounts of long-duration, steady-state cardio, and avoid lifting weights like the plague.
To justify my point – especially with regards to the dieting side of things – Elizabeth Walling had an amazing guest postover on Nia Shanks’ blog the other day on the stress and damage caused by chronic “dieting.”
To steal a quote:
We’re often given the impression by the diet industry and mainstream media that dieting and metabolic health go together like peas and carrots. But in reality, most diet plans that claim to boost your metabolism are really just low-calorie deprivation diets in disguise. Just a quick internet search reveals a disturbing trend: these diet plans that promise to raise your metabolism often recommend eating as little as 1000-1400 calories a day.
I don’t think it’s wrong for me to say that many women fall into this trap (guys do too, by the way) and often end up stuck in this never ending cycle of dieting, feeling like poop, not getting ideal results, dieting some more, feeling even more like poop, not getting results, and well, you get the idea.
They’ll hop on the scale – as if that’s somehow the end-all-be-all panacea of health – and see that they’ve made little (if any) headway in terms of the number going down, feel even more desperate and frustrated and repeat the cycle over and over and over again.
Why doesn’t dieting typically work? To steal another quote from Elizabeth:
Because the body views dieting as a famine (it doesn’t know what a bikini is or why you’d want to starve yourself to wear one). The body detects a lack of energy coming from food, so it turns to alternative energy sources to cope with the shortage. And how does the body access alternative energy sources? By releasing stress hormones.
And while it’s much more complicated than this (I’m going to refrain from going into the actual physiology), the body will go into “preservation mode” and start storing fat to stave off a perceived threat.
As such, many women will continue this perpetual cycle, jump on the scale expecting that all their suffering will somehow lead to weight loss, only to be disappointed, pissed off, frustrated, and thiiiiiiis close to punching a kitten in the mouth.
True story.
On the training side of the equation, we typically have the treadmill/Zumba class/step-aerobics/ avoid lifting weights at all costs camp.
Listen, I’m not here to bash “cardio.” I recognize that it’s part of the equation and that any well-rounded fitness/health routine will include some (key word: some).
That said, 100% of the time I feel it’s drastically overemphasized and could be more deleterious than beneficial. While I don’t want to go into the semantics here and start WWIII, I’ll just defer to an excellent (albeit controversial) article that John Kiefer wrote a while back titled Women: Running Into Trouble.
With that little song and dance out of the way I’ll admit it: I’m biased. I’m a strength coach, so of course I’m going to be adamant that women actually lift weights. Appreciable weights. None of this soup can/pink-dumbbell high rep nonsense.
Listen: If you want to change how your body looks – like, in a “holy shit, did I go to high school with you?” kind of way – you actually have to put forth some effort.
You need to actually provide enough of a stress to make it change.
Deep down, do you really think that lifting a weight that weighs less than your purse is going to do anything as far as body composition goes?
Come on, really?
No seriously, really?
You get out of it what you put in. If you lift light weights, your body is going to represent that fact: You’ll look frail and weak.
Maybe that’s what you want. And if so, more power to you. I guess. But I doubt that’s the case.
Now I’m not saying women have to lift weights so that they can win a knife fight in a back alley or challenge The Rock to an arm wrestling match, but I can’t stress enough how crucial it is to, you know, actually challenge the body and work.
Only then will you see the fruits of your labor.
Which is why I’d much rather see women focus more on strength/performance based goals rather than the scale to gauge progress/success.
Without getting overly technical, one lb of muscle weighs the same as one lb of fat, albeit takes up 25% less space. This is why you will often see contestants on the television show “The Biggest Loser” weigh the same as many professional athletes, despite being the twice the size.
Following a resistance training program helps build muscle which increases strength and firmness. Aside from that, muscle is also metabolically active tissue which will also helps you burn more fat. In essence, someone might see very little overall weight loss or even GAIN weight in order to achieve “the look.”
The latter is especially true for petite women.
As an example, a 5 foot 4 ,140 lb woman with 25% body fat wants to look leaner and achieve that “toned” look. I just threw up a little in my mouth using the word toned, but I’ll run with it to get my point across.
She wants those flabby arms to go away and she wants to fit into those pair of jeans that she used to wear back in college. To do so, this particular woman feels she should lose weight and get down to 110-115 lbs through restrictive dieting and copious amounts of cardio. If she takes that course, she may look thinner, but at the expense of looking like a smaller, weaker version of her original self.
Conversely, let’s take the right course instead.
Six months later the same 5’4” woman has followed a resistance training program (which is also great for strengthening bones and preventing osteoporosis), changed her diet to include more healthy fats (fish oil, nuts, avocado, olive oil, butter, coconut oil, etc) protein (ie: chicken breast, lean beef, eggs, cottage cheese, whey protein shakes) and less refined carbohydrates (ie: cereal bars, bagels, 100 calorie snack foods), and most importantly, she threw away her scale.
She made more QUALITATIVE goals and challenged herself to work up to being able to do five, un-assisted chin-ups as well as deadlift 200 lbs.
Mind you: when she started, she wasn’t even close to doing ONE chin-up, and could barely deadlift 100 lbs without shitting a liver.
Now she’s 135 lbs with 18% body fat. She lost eleven lbs of fat and gained six lbs of lean muscle, for a net loss of only five lbs.
But she looks like she lost 15 lbs. She’s not “skinny-fat.” She’s stronger and healthier. And she can fit into those jeans no less!
Using a more real life example, here’s a before/after pic that’s made its way around the internet which I feel gets the message across pretty concretely:
Most women would faint at the notion of GAINING nine lbs, but try to tell me that the after picture doesn’t look like she LOST weight?
You see: the scale only measure QUANTITATIVE progress. For some, especially those who are morbidly obese and need to lose weight for health reasons, it makes sense to track weight using the scale. For everyone else, however, it’s nothing more than mind f***.
Seeing the number on a scale go down doesn’t really tell you the QUALITY of weight being lost. As noted above, many will sacrifice muscle – which I’d argue you want to keep as much of as possible – in lieu of just seeing a loss. Any loss.
Hell, losing weight is easy.
1. Don’t drink any water for a day.
2. Go to the bathroom and drop it like it’s hot.
Problem solved.
See what I mean? Seeing a number dip on the scale doesn’t tell you the quality of the weight being lost.
And just to save face, as I noted above, for some, using the scale makes sense. Those who need to lose weight for health reasons would be high on the list.
Likewise, I’d even go so far as to say that those who take more of a Curious George approach and are very inquisitive or “in tune” with their bodies (think: physique athletes) would fall into this camp as well.
For most, they just want to see what variables – following a certain diet plan (low carb/high carb, intermittent fasting, Paleo?) or exercise routine (5/3/1, body part splits) – will do as far as fluctuations in their body weight.
This even applies to those who don’t compete, too.
As an example, I was having this conversation with one of my female clients, Claudia, who mentioned not too long ago how if she has a heavy salted meal the night prior, it’s not uncommon for her weight to go up 5 lbs (or more) the following day.
She likes to fiddle with “stuff” and see what affects her weight.
But she knows better and won’t jump in front a mack truck if she sees the scale go up a few lbs. She understands that if she gets back on task, the weight will go away after a few days.
To her credit, Claudia, who’s 48, always (and I mean always) stresses performance based goals over the scale. Here she is crushing an EXTRA set of softball grip pull-ups after performing four sets prior:
And you know what? I garner a guess that there’s plenty of women HALF her age who would kill to have her body.
Did I mention she’s 48?
She’s 48.
[And yes, I had permission to divulge her age]
Closing Up Shop
Many women make the mistake of equating progress with the number on the scale going down. If they don’t see the number going down on a weekly basis, they feel they’re failing. Let me make this simple. The scale can be very misleading and in a lot of ways, invalid.
How do you know the weight you’re losing is fat and not valuable muscle?
You should be more concerned with what the mirror is telling you. Are you losing inches around the body? Do your clothes fit better? Are you lifting more weight now compared to two months ago? Can you bang out ten crisp push-ups whereas before you could barely do one?
Perhaps these results are less quantifiable and harder to notice, however, the sooner you realize that these are better indicators of progress, the better off you will be.
This isn’t to say the above is an all encompassing mentality either. I realize that there are extenuating circumstances, and that utilizing the scale does have some merit. But for 95% of the women who are reading this post, it doesn’t correlate to much.
Actionable Item
Do yourself a favor: for TWO months ditch the scale. Give yourself a goal. It could be squatting “x” weight for “y” reps, improving bench press technique, performing your first chin-up, doing a handstand! Anything! Whatever you do, just focus on that instead.
